Why I don't call myself a healer

I think the reason that I do not want to call myself a healer, even though it is my intention to ease suffering in others, is to remove myself from Karpman’s cycle of suffering, the disempowerment cycle. I do not want to become a savior. Quite simply, only you can heal yourself no one “saves" you without your implication and faith in the process. The tendency is to put our faith and power in something outside ourselves and hope to be fixed. What is happening in the world today is case in point. We are always looking for something “out there” when the answer, the healing always lies within.

It is essential that anyone seeking to be healed get clear about their intention and not look for a quick fix. It is just as much of an illusion to think you are broken than to think someone else heals you. This creates dependencies, and worst of all, removes one’s personal responsibility and implication. It takes great courage to be ferociously honest with oneself. Until that courageous confrontation is accomplished, we are only running from ourselves, playing hide and seek with our true divine essence, and delaying our healing. This process can take lifetimes to understand, and it is our free will to explore all the nuances of suffering or lower vibrational energies. We all have, and that exploration gives a contrast so we can understand unconditional love, and higher vibrational energies. But eventually, enough is enough, and although we have probably had messages along the path of life, the final stop when many of us seek help is when those unanswered messages hit the physical body. This is when we can run no longer and must genuinely face how we got to this point.

This hide and seek with our true selves is the favorite game of the ego who fears its demise and thinks it can do everything itself. When it realizes it cannot, that is when we have a dark night of the soul. It’s at this moment of release, and despair when we realize all the band aids, we stuck on a gushing wound, have only bought us time but have not brought us to our soul. In this state of surrender, deep healing can occur. When it seems so dark and empty, this is when a guide is helpful.

The idea of a soul guide, coach, or soul doula is then a more appropriate term than healer. A guide, like the hermit in the tarot, can light and point the way. A coach can propose strategies, train to give endurance and perseverance, and encourage but he or she cannot win the game for you. A doula is an encouraging, supportive presence, to guide you through birthing a new being but she cannot birth the baby for you. In terms of healing, the new being is you and consciousness of your soul.

In reality, whenever 2 or more are gathered in the intention of love and raising awareness, the guide, coach, doula or whatever other name you’d like to give that role, becomes a channel for God, Spirit, Source, All that Is, the Creative Force, Nature, your higher self or more evolved future self, or again, whatever you choose to call IT, to work through them for your highest good. It amazes me each time to see what lost treasures of the soul come to light, that is often totally unexpected or buried by our conscious filters.

Regardless, of the detours, and lesson repetitions that our soul takes, we must be ready to confront our shadows, our suppressed traumas, wounded inner child and be willing to take responsibility for our healing and the changes that requires. Feeling guided and supported through these growing pains knowing someone is there for you could be a powerful catalyst to healing yourself.

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